Extra Marital affairs

Date January 4, 2015

WHY PEOPLE HAVE EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIRS

The more detailed reasons for affairs are too many and various. Here are some of the most common reasons most people suggest:
1) Anger felt towards the partner, with a need, whether recognised or not, to hurt the partner
2) Some say their intention was to make their partner jealous, though it is seldom clear how this would be expected to have any desirable outcome for either of them
3) An unwillingness to resist any new opportunity for emotional or sexual involvement. This is sometimes given the profitable but bogus diagnosis of “sex addiction”, though it is not at all an addictive process or responsive to normal treatments for addictions. “sex addiction” is an excuse for not choosing to exercise self-restraint or discipline.throughout life we are faced with tempting opportunities for brief enjoyment at a total cost that makes it foolish to indulge in them.
4) Some explain an affair by saying that they no longer feel “in love” with their partner, or that they have “fallen out of love”, or “grown apart”. While maintaining a loving relationship may require effort and work, if there ever was real love, it can be regained and extended, so long as the task isn’t merely abandoned.
5) Some speak of sexual incompatibility, though if a couple were ever sexually compatible, this would only change due to illness, physical or psychological in one or both of them.
6) Some feel that if their partner has been unfaithful, they themselves are somehow entitled to have an affair, too. Yet generally, one does not feel that stealing from a thief is a noble or justifiable response.

HOW DO EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIRS DEVELOP

The process typically passes through several stages, and may stop at any one of these, or proceed into a full-blown affair. In the first stage, one simply gets to know another person, and to form an initial emotional connection with them. One shares time with them on social or work opportunities, one talks more about each other’s personal lives, perhaps provide each other with emotional support, and perhaps you start mild flirting.
In the next stage, the relationship deepens, and you mutually decide, maybe even without saying so out loud, to keep it a secret. You feel it’s now the sort of relationship you wouldn’t tell your spouse about, or tell most friends. Now a boundary has been crossed, and you are no longer merely friends or colleagues. You may start to have fantasies about the other person. Somehow, secret relationships are more arousing and seize your attention far more. Remember stolen waters are always more tastier than your own. Then though you may officially still insist you’re “just friends”, you find increasing numbers of excuses to meet, more often and for longer. You start to be far more vigilant and cautious not to let others realise what is happening, though close friends may start to become suspicious.
And then the relationship becomes more intense, and sexual as well as emotional. Feelings of excitement and pleasure become mixed with guilt, and it gets much harder to hide the fact that something has changed.the truth about affairs is that the price to be paid is too high that its not worth having them. No matter how clever you can do it eventually you will be exposed, so why continue?
Think of the consequences - your family’s time and money, your health, your future generation is it really worth it ?????????

Its never too late to save your family by calling it quits now.

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